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How
To Get A Woman's Phone Number And Email Address Within Three Minutes
Of Meeting Her
By David DeAngelo
Let
me start off by telling you something interesting:
I've
personally stopped focusing on just getting phone numbers. I've
found that EMAIL addresses are far better (I still get the phone
number too, of course).
Let me explain.
I perfected
the art of getting phone numbers a couple of years ago.
If a
woman is single, I can walk up to her and get her number in about a
minute or two (if I'm in a hurry). I found out later, after working
like a mad scientist on this that GETTING PHONE NUMBERS ALONE
DOESNT'T EQUAL SUCCESS.
You see, women have many different
reasons for giving out their phone numbers. Some love the attention
of having a lot of men call them. Some like to turn guys down. Some
are actually interested. But the universal feedback that I get from
men, and in my personal experience, women act different on the phone
than they do in person.
When you call a woman for the first
time, she'll often start acting stand offish or even worse, just
plain rude. It's almost like she's a different person than the one
you met.
I've found that getting an EMAIL address is not only
easier, but it gets more positive responses later on. It's almost as
if women appreciate it that you've taken the time to think about
what you're going to say when you write an email to them, and they
think of you more like someone they know.
The other benefit
of email is that it can be written and answered anytime.
If
you call, you have to actually reach them. But an email can be
answered anytime. And I've found that emails are answered FAR more
often than voicemail messages.
HERE'S THE HOW
TO:
After I've talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes,
I'll often say something like "Well, it was nice meeting you. I'm
going to get back to my friends."
They usually don't know
what to do, as they're used to guys clinging to them. Most of the
time, they say "It was nice meeting you too..." Then, just as I'm
turning to walk away, and we kind of disconnect, I turn back and say
"HEY! Do you have email?"
The "HEY!" is a bit surprising, and
"Do you have email" is non-threatening. In fact, I'm technically
asking her if she HAS email, not if she'll GIVE IT TO ME.
If
she says "yes," I take out a pen and paper and say "Great, write it
down for me" and I have her write it down. (This is great, as I just
treat the 'yes' that they give me as a yes to get it from them as
well. And they've almost ALL gone along with it so far) Then AS
SHE'S IN THE MIDDLE OF WRITING, I say "Write your number down there
too."
When you ask for email, it's very low risk for a woman,
so she'll think "Fine, I'll do that." Most women will give out an
email address without thinking about it, because they know that they
can choose later to just not answer.
The magic of asking them
to write their phone number down WHILE they're in the middle of
writing down their email is all about the psychology of human
behavior.
She's already mentally said "OK, I'll give you my
email address"... and she's in the middle of writing it down. When
you say "And just write your number down there too" it's only
NATURAL to just write it.
In other words, it's a MUCH smaller
step than giving out the phone number all by itself. It took me a
LONG time to figure out this simple move, but it works like magic!
You will have women writing their phone numbers down without even
thinking twice.
Here's a great add-on to make sure you're
getting a real phone number and not a pager or voicemail:
As
she's writing down her phone number I say "Is this a number that you
actually answer?" If she looks at me and hesitates, or says that
it's her "voicemail or pager number," then I say "Look, write your
real number down. It's going to be OK, I'll only call you nine times
a day..." They laugh and usually give me their real
number.
Now, if she answers my first question and says "No, I
don't have email" then I bust on them and say "Well, do you have
electricity?" This is a GREAT opportunity to use humor.
Then
I say "Well, OK then. I like email better, but I'll take your
regular phone number. It's so damn hard to reach people on the phone
these days."
Just realize that all you have to do is
ask.
Like I said, I've tried all kinds of things. And I've
gotten hundreds of phone numbers. And I use this exact sequence
every time I talk to a woman and I want to get her phone number.
I've gotten to the point where I can often do this in a minute or
two - no kidding!
Now that you know the sequence, write it
down with the words and the steps, and rehearse it in your mind over
and over until you know exactly what to say for each step and each
response.
Many guys have asked me "But what do I tell her as
a reason why I want her number or email?" I've never had a woman ask
me. If you ask, and they give it, then she knows why you asked. If
she doesn't give it to you, then she also knew why you
asked.
Just assume that this is the case.
If you ask
every time, and you do it in a smooth, assuming, calm way, you'll
get a lot of emails and phone numbers.
Note: Carry a pen on
you at all times. I prefer the Fisher Space Pen (chrome) because
it's small, classy, and women love it!
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David DeAngelo is the author of "Double
Your Dating - What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women",
and has taught thousands of men how to be more successful with women and
dating.
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